Adults only reception

We are having an adult only wedding. We have the kids who are included in the wedding party attending the reception as well. If anyone makes a comment I will simply say that they are part of my wedding party and I wanted them to be apart of the entire day.

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Thanks Carlee,

I pretty much am going to say the same thing but it will be through someone I have at the door. Because if it was up to me, I wouldn't be so nice. LBVS I'm just trying to get some other suggestions and comments. Unfortunately, he has a lot of "children" in his family but that's too bad. If you can't get a sitter, you will just miss out.

I would find it strange that someone would question why the children who were in the wedding are allowed to stay for the reception. To me, that is pretty much common sense. If anyone does say anything to you, just tell them that you let them come as a thank you for helping and participating, and that it would have been too much to have everyone's child there. I'm having a destination wedding, so my son will be there but otherwise only three other little ones are invited. If you are worried about people just showing up with their kids, I would start telling people now that it is an adult reception.

I think it's pretty simple. They should be respected as part of the wedding party and not seen as children first. People in a wedding party are invited to the reception as a given, not an expectation regardless of age. I'd tell unhappy attendees that.

*exception not expectation

I would just they are the bridal party. Most guests will understand that. I wouild

We're having an adult only wedding, no one below the age of 13 and I know for a fact that means no kids except my cousin's son who I knew couldn't be kept at home due to how their living situation is. So I made him a ring bearer so no one could complain. I also did it because on my side: 6 kids (2 of which belong to a cousin whom I dislike very very much) and because every female on my fiance's side has an average of 3 kids. So in total it'd be about 40-50 young children who run around like crazy and aren't watched by their tequila shooting parents. That's a lot of extra money for kids who probably won't even eat the kid's food and its money we don't have to throw away.

As for your other question about if people show up anyway, I would designate someone you trust to be the interceptor like a maid of honor or even let the venue know if they provide someone to check guests in to be firm with your policy. If worse comes to worse and people show up and stay with their kids no matter what then all I can say is do your best to ignore the kids and focus on you and your love, its all for one day and you've worked hard to plan it so enjoy it as much as possible.

View Quoted Comment I agree. We are having an adult reception with children in the wedding party and people coming from out of town (thousands of miles) ONLY.

I am doing the same thing. I am having only the kids in my wedding party there. When people ask me, I let them know nicely that I am only having the kids in my wedding at my reception. It is natural that they would be there. They have been receptive and respectful about that.

I would be shocked if someone would question why there's kids in my wedding party but their kids aren't! LOL I would think that would be self explanatory. Some folks are just selfish, unfortunately. And are only thinking about themselves. Paulette, I would tell them that these are the children in your wedding party, and therefore that is why they are there. No other kids were to be accommodated aside from these children. It's sad that you'd have to explain. I hope everything works out for you

The only children that will be at my adult reception are each of our neices and nephews. That's it. Because they should be there. And as with all question I say "I'd really like too but budget restrictions won't allow us."

Most people understand that wedding party and family children are often exceptions to the adult only reception. If anyone says something, politely let them know they are members of your wedding party and are attending the reception as such.

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Jeanie,

It is common sense but I've found that some people are just not considerate and will show up just to see if you will turn them away or not. The fortunate thing is that I will not be at the door and I have someone there who will definitely be on it. As for telling people, It will be on the invitation and/or reception card.

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Thank you for that. I really don't have a problem telling anyone anything. LOL I just wanted to see how others would or have handled it. So it's all good.

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Every one is not like you Ms. Laura. I've heard people at other weddings say, "I thought this was adults only?!" and clearly the children were in the wedding. Some people are just clueless but I tend to look over those people

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Great advice! Thank you so much!! And just like you, my FH is the one that has the hellavu lot of kids in his family! Sorry, not enough room!

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Thanks Andrea! Yes it is shocking but I've seen it happen! Everything is going to work out so I'm far from worried! LBVS I just feel sorry for the ones that may try to get in!

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Great response Danielle! Yes the budget is very restricted. Hell, I would have like to just went away and got married but FH mom can't travel. He has a bunch of nieces and nephews with small children. I'm sorry, It's just not happening!! Can't afford it!!

View Quoted Comment Yessssss. We doing it how we want it.

It's fine to include only kids in the bridal party. If anyone asks or complains, explain this and that's all they need to know