Bachelorette party

It sucks they backed out after agreeing to do it. But no one should have asked them to do it in the first place. You only get showers and bach parties if someone OFFERS to host one. No one should be pressure or coerced into doing so. You may have to adjust your expectations a little since and scale back your plans if you'd like them to participate.

I agree with PPs that too much pressure was placed on them. Bachelorette parties are completely optional and never a requirement. Lower your expectations and remember that your bridal party has no duties other than buy the correct dress and show up on your wedding day

I agree with what the previous posters have said. Talking about money issues is never a comfortable conversation and they likely were feeling embarrassed by the fact that they couldn't afford to throw you the party you want. Like Caytlyn said, they probably felt as though they had to throw it just because your MOH assigned that duty to them. I would try and talk with them and see if there is anything else they are struggling with since wedding can be expensive and you have already stated that you feel like they never have any money when it comes to you. However, you say they are your best friends and you chose them for that reason. I would focus on why you are friends with them and appreciate what they are able to do for you and that they are planning on standing by your side on the most important day of your life. Good luck

Of course. I know it isn't easy, but be thankful they are able to be there! I just found out that my MOH is being deployed and will likely not be able to come to the wedding at all (waiting on exact dates). There are always worse situations to be in! I really do hope it all gets sorted out for you though!

It does seem odd they didn't reach out sooner explaining the money issue, or planning a cheaper option. It's great your MOH and SIL stepped in, I'm sorry about the other two BMs.

To be honest...I would reconsider having them in the wedding. Have they purchased their dresses yet? If not...are they gonna pull the "I don't have money" card when it comes time for that? That is really disheartening. And the fact that one of them didn't even bother responding...smh. I would have 2 less bridesmaids...or replace them. If they don't care about how special this day is to you, they shouldn't care that they are no longer in the wedding...IMO.

LOL...I know it sounds harsh, but even if they felt pressured. They should not have waited until the last minute to say something. That's messed up. Good luck with everything hun. I hope your wedding and pre-wedding festivities are amazing!!!