Search discussions
2018

2018 Devoted

on Jan 13, 2018 at 4:59 PM

Bachelorette

If you are the bride do you pay your part of the bachelorette or do your bridesmaids pay for you?

Flag
Reply

Replies (34)

Yoomie VIP

on Jan 13, 2018 at 5:07 PM
I think, traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for you for the activities. However, if you have a destination bachlorette, you pay for your own airfare and sometimes accommodations.
Reply

Flag

muriel

muriel Master

on Jan 13, 2018 at 5:22 PM

It depends on the arrangements the hosts make.

Reply

Flag

Adriana

Adriana Expert

on Jan 13, 2018 at 5:55 PM
My bridesmaids hosted my bachelorette, and invited other friends of mine. I believe the cost for me was split between everyone, but may have just been between my bridesmaids.
Reply

Flag

2d Bride

2d Bride Master

on Jan 13, 2018 at 7:01 PM

First place, a bachelorette isn't always given by the bridesmaids. It is given by whoever volunteers (and doesn't happen at all if no one volunteers).

If someone offers to give you a bachelorette, they typically pay for you.

Reply

Flag

Jessica Dedicated

on Jan 13, 2018 at 8:14 PM
You really should pay for yourself. I’ve never heard of anyone not paying their own way at parties
Reply

Flag

Melissa Expert

on Jan 13, 2018 at 8:33 PM
I think my MOH, who is throwing my bachelorette, is splitting costs with the other girls attending. However, I was allowed to give limited information on anything I really do or do not want and she is planning the rest as a surprise.
Reply

Flag

earias

earias Rockstar

on Jan 13, 2018 at 8:51 PM
Usually your costs are shared by your bridesmaids, but if you requested a weekend (or longer) destination party then you should pay your portion.
Reply

Flag

Katie Beginner

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:02 AM
I have thrown a bachelorette party for a bride before since the MOH didn't want to and we paid her way. The night out meal, overnight stay at a hotel, drinks, cake, and I brought in a pure romance consultant to spoil the bride (she got extra free stuff if other gals at the party purchased goodies). I split the costs between everyone at the party as far as the major expenses but I paid for the minor decor, cake and small goodies for attendees out of my own pocket. Them helping pay for the room (we stayed in suite with lots of room), dinner and drinks made it easier on everyone's pocketbook. Also did girls day shopping which was all out of our own pocket if we wanted to buy things. But I don't think the bride should ever have to pay for her own party. It's our job to spoil her, not burden her with more costs.
Reply

Flag

Candy Expert

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:05 AM
We are all adults. Pay for yourself
Reply

Flag

2018 Devoted

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:10 AM
I’m actually asking because I’m planning one for a friend and i think it would be rude to have her pay for herself. So we will all be paying for her!
Reply

Flag

2018 Devoted

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:11 AM
That’s what I’m thinking! I’m planning one for a friend and i didn’t want her to pay for herself! She will be spoiled!!
Reply

Flag

Anitra Just Said Yes

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:11 AM
For my sisters wedding there were five bridesmaids and 13 girls that went to the bachelorette we split the price of all of her activities for the weekend between all 13 girls
Reply

Flag

Cuoghi

Cuoghi VIP

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:35 AM
I think it really depends on what the bach party in involves. Offering to chip in, even if they are going to pay for you is always good manners.
Reply

Flag

July18Bride

July18Bride Super

on Jan 14, 2018 at 12:53 AM
If your doing a destination then you pay. Otherwise the BMs normally pay
Reply

Flag

K squared

K squared Super

on Jan 14, 2018 at 9:00 AM
It depends. If the bride has had zero input and you're hosting than you shouldn't expect her to pay anything. But if she's mentioned that she really wants a weekend away here and would love to stay here and go out to eat here than she should get her wallet out.
Reply

Flag

Stephanie

Stephanie Super

on Jan 14, 2018 at 9:22 AM
Every bachelorette I’ve been involved in planning has had the BMs (or participants if BMs aren’t involved) split the cost of the bride. It’s a treat for the bride to have an event like this and in no situation did the bride ask us for a party. We just wanted to make her feel special. As the bride this time, I don’t want to assume that everything will be free for me, so I’ll come prepared to pay my way, unless I’m told otherwise when we get closer to the date.
Reply

Flag

Desiree Beginner

on Jan 14, 2018 at 9:46 AM
Mine paid for everything but we did a simple night at the casino
Reply

Flag

KRaeBride Dedicated

on Jan 14, 2018 at 1:21 PM

I'm paying for my portion of accommodations and my airfare (I wouldn't expect my bridesmaids to, none of us are very well-off). I'm also planning on paying for my own stuff for the duration of our time in Vegas (yay!). But I know they are planning on some special activity that I don't think I'm paying for.

Reply

Flag

Daphne Dedicated

on Jan 14, 2018 at 1:35 PM
Whoever volunteers to do your bachelorette pays for it more than likely it'll be the MOH but if no one does, you could always pay for it and throw your own party
Reply

Flag

FutureMrs.V

FutureMrs.V Super

on Jan 14, 2018 at 1:36 PM
I'll pay my share. I'm not expecting anyone else to pay. I also don't know what exactly they are planning for mine.
Reply

Flag

Page 1 of 2

Respond to this discussion

Reply