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Dedicated May 2019

Bridesmaid Posting Pictures

Tori, on June 20, 2019 at 8:17 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Sorry this is more of a rant than anything. We got our pictures back a couple weeks ago and I'm intending to sort through to pick out some to print and some to post on Facebook but I've been short on time and haven't gotten to it quite yet. A few days ago my MOH text me and asked if I had the pictures yet so I responded that yes, and I plan on posting some to Facebook soon but in the meantime you can look through the Google drive folder if you want, and sent her the private link to the pictures.

On Father's day I saw that she posted on of the pictures of her and her dad dancing at the wedding. I was a little annoyed because I really wanted to be the one to post MY pictures but it was just one for her dad so whatever. But then this morning I see she used another one as her new cover photo, this one with me and the other bridesmaids in it (and not one that would have made my list to post).

I might be being a bit ridiculous but posting our official wedding photos is going to be my first Facebook post in probably 6 years or more and I really wanted them to come from my account first and to be able to control which of my pictures get shared with the world. I don't care about guest's phone shots or random pictures like that, but I wanted the professional ones to come out all together in one post. Ugh. Rant over.

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Latest activity by Tori, on June 20, 2019 at 3:16 PM

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Caytlyn · on June 20, 2019 at 8:23 AM
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I can see how that's definitely frustrating. Obviously people have already seen them by now, but if her taking them down would make you feel better, I would tell her that. "I really wanted to be the first to share our wedding photos. Could you please remove the photo of you and the other bridesmaids?" If it doesn't matter to you that she takes down the one she already posted, I would say "I noticed that you posted a couple of our wedding photos on Facebook. I really wanted to be the first to share them and would appreciate if you didn't post any more."
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Anna · on June 20, 2019 at 8:26 AM
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She's just excited and proud of the pictures. You did send them to her🤷 you opened that door.
She's just sharing in the joy.
It wouldn't bother me. I'm sure people will get tired of me sharing them all❤
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Kelly · on June 20, 2019 at 9:22 AM
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I see why it's annoying but if you shared with them with her without saying don't share I feel like there isn't anything you can do.
That being said nearly all wedding ettiquite says don't post before the bride. 🤷
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Sarah · on June 20, 2019 at 9:28 AM
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Honestly, if you wanted control over how and when your photos got shared, you shouldn’t have given her access to your photos. Maybe since you never post on Facebook anyway she thought you weren’t going to post anything.
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Sarah · on June 20, 2019 at 9:57 AM
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I agree with the above posters, I can see why that's annoying. However, she may have taken access to the photos as permission to post them. I really would let it go, unless there are certain photos you don't want posted online.
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Iva · on June 20, 2019 at 11:37 AM
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I wouldn’t like this either. I think bride & groom should be the ones to announce their wedding & their photos. I wouldn’t mind her posting photos that don’t include me & husband though.
At the same time, I wouldn’t give anybody access to the drive before I’m ready for them to share the photos lol. She probably saw this as ok to post, especially if you haven’t posted on FB in 6 years!
Just talk to her & let her know how you feel & she can take down the photo that you are in.
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MrsD · on June 20, 2019 at 11:43 AM
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I can't really relate to this, I wouldn't care especially if I sent her the link. I'm sure she was excited for the pictures, I always am as a bridesmaid. I guess she could have asked but I would have thought if you didn't want her to post, you would have mentioned it when you sent her the link. It REALLY doesn't seem important if people have posted photos from the wedding anyway, professional or not.
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Cristy · on June 20, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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I can see both sides of this. However, if it were my wedding photos, I would be super pissed!! I would never post photos of someone else's wedding on social media, unless the bride/groom specifically told me I could. Even then, I feel like I would wait until they posted some. It was their wedding after all!!!
Dang, this makes me really mad. I'm sure she was just excited, which is why you should speak to her. She probably never meant to offend or upset you.
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Dedicated May 2019
Tori · on June 20, 2019 at 3:16 PM
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Update - I text her just a "dude not cool" and she immediately appologized and took it down. She was just so excited about them she forgot I hadn't posted yet!!

Also funny side note, the pictures in the drive are full resolution which are too big to post unless you convert them, which she doesn't know how to do so she had taken multiple screenshots of screenshots to reduce the quality and file size before Facebook would take it... What a goof!!
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