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Makayla
Savvy September 2022

Honeymoon fund? Yay or nay

Makayla, on August 19, 2019 at 12:06 AM Posted in Registry 1 24
So my fiancé and I have lived together for 3 years now. With that being said we don’t want to just add a bunch of unnecessary items onto our registry. What are some must haves? Also what are your thoughts on just having a “Honeymoon Fund” and no registry?

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Latest activity by Cassie, on September 1, 2019 at 5:21 AM
  • Monique
    Master December 2019
    Monique ·
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    There are so many conversations on this honeymoon funds. Search in the forum. Smiley smile if you decide to go that route most people bring cash anyways and it’s not really needed.
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    If you just have no registry, people will give you cash. If you have a honeymoon fund, people will give you cash, but the honeymoon fund will take part of it. So why bother with the honeymoon fund? Just don't register.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    I never understood the concept of a honeyfund. They take a decent size portion of your gift and do nothing of use. They don’t book anything. You don’t get discounts. At the end the cut you a check minus their “fee.”

    People are savvy. They know a small or no registry means cash. They don’t need a website to “donate” to 1/4 of your hotel room for night 3 in a hotel where the website-builder totally guessed on the cost.
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  • Y
    Savvy September 2019
    Yasmin ·
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    👍 makes sense
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    We've been living together for years and bought a house a year and a half ago. We're using our wedding registry to get small things we'd like but haven't gotten around to purchasing ourselves (handheld portable vacuum, cordless drill, smart lightbulbs) and to upgrade things we already have (a heave duty pots and pans set and a nice knife set). It's the reason we really like our Amazon registry - they let people contribute toward a gift instead of having to buy it outright. For example, a few people have given $50 or $100 toward our knife set instead of one person or family buying it for $300+, so we don't feel guilty about registering for the high dollar items that we truly want.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Agree with everyone else, just skip the registry.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I had a honeymoon fund and out of all my guests, only a really tiny portion used it. And you'll get charged a fee also.
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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    Personally, I like the idea of a honeymoon fund. But when I was considering doing one, I got a lot of negative feedback from family saying it was tacky. People give money at weddings all the time, so I don't get what's so weird about designated that money towards your honeymoon. My fiancé and I already live together to so I just abandoned the honeymoon fund idea and decided we could use an upgrade on some things around the house like nicer towels or bedding, some decor. It doesn't have to be fine china or anything, I even added some board games to build our collection for game nightsXD

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  • K
    Expert February 2020
    Kristina ·
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    WE are doing a Honeyfund and adding on all the things we would like to do on our cruise, including excursions, massages, food places we like, stuff like that. This is a 2nd marriage for both of us, so we pretty much have everything we need for the house.

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  • Aleaj
    Expert October 2019
    Aleaj ·
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    We have to travel to our wedding so we are requesting monetary gifts only and didn’t register anywhere. I may also set up a honeymoon jar at the reception just for fun, but haven’t decided yet. There is also a way to suggest it, I’ve found many quotes online. Lol
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    A big caution on their pricing. None of it is well-researched. Most of it is a guess and none of it can be booked through the sites. If you make one of these sites be sure to do your own research on the costs of all the extras and adjust the prices accordingly.
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  • Katelyn
    Expert October 2020
    Katelyn ·
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    My fiancé and I have been living together for 6 years and we were going to do a honeymoon fund (which his mom recommended), but when we discussed it infront of his mom she got all pissed that we were asking for money. We explained to here there’s nothing we really need in terms of dishes or anything like that so we just want to do a honeymoon fund. She told us to delete it all together and people would bring cash. So, that’s what we’re doing.
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  • K
    Expert February 2020
    Kristina ·
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    I am not relying on the Honeyfund pricing. I actually pull up the RC website for our cruise and put the prices in based off that. We've talked with our TA and she is comfortable with us using the Honeyfund website. Otherwise, she will set something up for guests to contact her to pay for things on our cruise as gifts.

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  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
    Mary ·
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    Honeyfunds are very common in our circles, so that is what we went with. We researched our itinerary and added items based on what we would like to do in each city. On the registry, we also added a note that certain payment methods incur service fees (savvy guests opted to pledge and give a check or send directly via Paypal). As PP said, most people still brought cash/checks to the wedding.
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    Yes, but do a Honeymoon fund without setting it up online. Just allocate all cash gifts towards it...problem solved.

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  • Aurora
    Dedicated July 2020
    Aurora ·
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    We are doing a honeymoon fund and not using wedding wire. The Knot has one, and its awesome, it links directly to your bank account! We set everything up so people can pitch into different aspects of our honeymoon trip and it is fun, interactive, and tracks who donated to what and how much! We will be asking people to skip the gift and donate on it. We also are going to make a poster for both the shower and wedding to remind people to do it. I am curious to see the turnout we have as I read comments that they didn't have good turn out but we are going to make sure people know!

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  • Izzykern
    Super April 2021
    Izzykern ·
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    We were thinking of doing the same thing, but labeling it "honeymoon fund" seems a bit tacky and we don't like asking for money, so we are just accepting cash if family/friends wish to contribute. We are not making a registry because we, like you guys, have lived together for some time and will have bought a house buy the time of our wedding, so we have all the "must haves" already

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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
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    So this is my plan. I am going to have a small registry printed on bridal shower invites since some older aunts like giving products not money, which is fine. For the wedding itself we are just doing a honeymoon fund, no registry.

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  • Juliana
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Juliana ·
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    We started a HoneyFund for my bridal shower. We got a good amount of contributions but the fees are turning me off lol thinking I might disable the account a week before the wedding so people can come with a physical card.
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  • Shanita
    Dedicated September 2020
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    We did both...Initially we were just going to do the "honeymoon fund" but my mom suggested that we register a few gifts as well. Nonetheless, I see nothing wrong with strictly having a honeymoon fund.

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