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My fiance does not want his brother to participate in the wedding

Anna, on June 16, 2019 at 5:15 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
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My fiance does not have a good relationship with his brother, so he doesn't want him to participate in the wedding, he doesn't even care if he comes or not. I don't want to cause family drama, but I know his parents will want him to be a groomsman. Should I intervene and ask the brother to be an usher instead? Should I just stay out of it?

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Latest activity by Kelly, on June 17, 2019 at 9:27 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Not your family, not your business. Let your FH handle it. If he doesn’t want him in the wedding, that probably means as an usher as well.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I would stay out of it. It doesn’t really matter what his parents want because his brother should get to choose his own groomsmen based on who he is closest to.
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would stay out of it and let your FH handle it with this brother as well as his family. You will just need to go with whatever they decide. I was in a similar situation and his brother didn’t even show up....and that was fine. Good luck!
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I would stay out of it too, your FH may think you're taking your future BIL"s side and may not like it. If your guy doesn't want him to be part of the wedding that's his decision

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Stay way out of it. Your FH could see it as betrayal if you go behind him and ask his brother to be a part of it. You need to support each other first.
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  • Margaret
    Dedicated June 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Stay out of it and let your husband handle it. If future in laws try to discuss it with you, just tell them that you understand their feelings, but this is something to talk to their son about.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Stay out of it. My fiance didn't want his sisters involved so they aren't. Any inquiries on it go immediately to him.
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