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Carol, on August 21, 2018 at 9:22 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 20

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Hi ladies! Bit of a complicated story but I’ll try to explain and see if anyone can help easy me here.

My FH and I are waiting to be intimate until our wedding night so this is kinda a big deal to me outside of the inconvenience. Here are the things that in an ideal world would happen:

1- no babies
2- no ‘backup’ protection other than birth control
3- no period and mess on our wedding night...

so.

i had an iud put in November 2017.... needless to say it did not go well. I didn’t have my period often so that was a bonus but the pain I endured was not worth it. The 8-9 months I had it were filled with constant cramping and severe pain (every after the 6 month mark) so I went in last week and it ended up having to be taken out.

That same day my gyno started me on taytulla because we were getting married in just under a month on that day (17 days now) the same day I started I started bleeding and have been for about a week (just started the second line of pills today and I’m on the tail end of bleeding)

the absent pills fall on my wedding day (ugh) so she said to start into the next pack instead because that’s what I used to do (but for different reasons).

however during this first week of the pack I was bleeding, so I’m worried that even during that first week of the pack I will be too.... (????)

are my worries valid? I know every woman is different but I’m wondering experiences from other women!

taytulla has a side effect of spotting, and even spotting I can deal with but full out period would be a worst nightmare to me on that first night!

any suggestions? And SHOULD that night come is there any magic pill or thing that will help either slow down or stop it for a few hours??

-sincerely a freaking out bride looking forward to a stress-free first time 😂

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Latest activity by Angela , on August 22, 2018 at 9:53 AM

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latasha · on August 21, 2018 at 9:31 PM
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I can’t help you at all but I came to say that I’m in the a similar situation. Much FH and I are also waiting to be intimate on our wedding night. We BOTH are looking forward to it VERYYY much and I’m terrified I’m going to get my period. My gyn suggests an IUD because it’ll help with the severe periods I get and also the pill raises my blood pressure. The unpredictable nature of the IUD has me freaking out even more.

Back to you now lol....I think the overlap of pills should do it. I’ve been on pills in the past and have done the doubling up before and didn’t get my period. I do have to be honest tho I did have symptoms of the period despite no bleeding. I’d say have pain killers, any type of soothing items, etc if you have pains, cravings or get moody like me during my cycle so you can enjoy you night/honeymoon with your husband lol. I’m crossing my fingers for you!! Good luck!
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BlushWedding · on August 21, 2018 at 9:32 PM
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I would try doing what your doctor said. I have skipped the placebo pills and started a new pack in order to skip my period for a vacation last year - and t worked just fine! I will be doing this next week for my wedding as well, as for the way it stands right now I would have my period for half of my honeymoon.

My only concern for you, is that in your case you have not been on the oral contraceptive for very long , so unfortunately your body isn’t used to it as it would be if you were ok it for a longer period of time. That being said, skipping the placebo pills may not work as well for you seeing as this sounds like it is still your first cycle on it.

I mean I know it’s unfortunate, but maybe you will get lucky and not have it! Or only spot and that’s no big deal either some people are all for period sex but I’m not a fan of that idea personally and forego it during that time. I have seen in past forums about using a diva cup in that situation though.
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Cuoghi · on August 21, 2018 at 9:35 PM
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Just take the pack all the way through and dont start the next, don't use the placebo pills.
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Cuoghi · on August 21, 2018 at 9:36 PM
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*sorry I meant start the next. Also second the diva cup.
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Cuoghi · on August 21, 2018 at 9:41 PM
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Also, I wouldnt get your hopes up for wedding night sex. You (or him or both) are going to be exhausted or possibly intoxicated. And even if you do have sex, it probably won't be that great, many newlyweds will tell you similar things. But you will have a lifetime to work on that!
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Carol · on August 21, 2018 at 9:43 PM
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Can people have sex on the diva cup?? I thought those were kinda big!
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Carol · on August 21, 2018 at 9:44 PM
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Thanks for your concerns and input- I’ll probably follow what the doctor said like you mentioned!

Luckily we we are not drinking and our reception is only like 2 hours or so (dinner and cake) so we should be fine for the night- although we probably will be tired like you said! And it’s not our first time ever, just first time together
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Brae · on August 21, 2018 at 9:47 PM
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You should be fine if you move onto the next set of pills right away. The reason you probably bled during the first week originally is because of the transition from IUD to pill. It takes a few pills "to fake being pregnant" to your body, (same with the IUD) so the gap between the two forms of birth control gave you your period.
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Mroe3 · on August 21, 2018 at 9:54 PM
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You should just continue onto the next pack, no placebo pills. As someone who used to take the pill for a long time, agreed the spottig was due to switching methods.

And as as someone who has used the IUD for a long time, as a general, unsolicited thought — were you using a hormonal IUD or a copper one? I know copper has a higher risk of heavy periods/cramping, but I have used only a hormonal one, and haven’t had a period for almost 5 years. It’s great. If you haven’t discussed hormonal with your doctor, I would suggest it.
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Hannah · on August 21, 2018 at 9:55 PM
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Juat starting the new pack has worked for me before but not every time, but if it happens it happen, don't stress about that, you have the rest of your lives to be intimate
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Carol · on August 21, 2018 at 9:56 PM
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I used hormonal it was the placement and inserting that did NOT go well for me (like I’m partly traumatized from it, and I wish that was a joke)
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Cuoghi · on August 21, 2018 at 10:15 PM
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I hope it works out with the pill! Sorry about your IUD. I love mine (on my second) but the placement can definitely be tough in someone who hasn't had kids (I'm assuming, sorry if I assumed wrong) that's why they often want you go come in to have it placed while on your period.
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Ashley · on August 21, 2018 at 10:23 PM
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I only have 3 periods a year now by skipping the placebo week (awful hormonal migraines), and the first time I skipped a pack, I had some breakthrough bleeding. The next time was fine until 3 months in, then I had breakthrough again. Now I can typically go all 4 months without issues, but it's a case by case basis. I think going right into your next pack should be okay. Hopefully if you do breakthrough, it'll be super light and noticeable.
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augbride · on August 21, 2018 at 10:37 PM
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I second this but I always skip the placebos.. couldn’t tell you the last time I got my period (approved by my doctor). Like Ashley I get really bad hormonal migraines. Sometimes I spot but it’s very light so hopefully even if you are bleeding it’s only light spotting.
Good luck!
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Shelby · on August 21, 2018 at 10:46 PM
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I am actually getting my IUD taking out for the same reasoning.
So I would have to wait to see what my gyno says.
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Shelby · on August 21, 2018 at 10:50 PM
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Same here!!!
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Mel · on August 21, 2018 at 10:54 PM
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So I was in the same thing. We are waiting until our wedding night which is next Friday the 31st to be intimate. We planned our wedding right around the time I would be on my period ( not on purpose it just was the only day that worked for everyone at the time.) I voice my concerns to my Fiance which was a little uncomfortable only because I was sharing very personal information. I just started praying about it and knew that God is in control. Today I started my period. Which means I won't be on it next week. I understand the feelings that comes with getting married and worring that you will be on your period. But take each day as it comes. Nothing will change by you worrying over it.
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Shannon · on August 21, 2018 at 11:00 PM
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If you do have your period you can still have sex if you want to. I am self-conscious of it, but my FH tells me not to be. If I were to have my period on my wedding night, and I weren’t too tired after the reception, I would definitely still go for it! Just lay a towel down. Any time I’ve had sex on my period there was little to no mess.
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Cuoghi · on August 21, 2018 at 11:00 PM
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You should be able to tell to your fiance about this and any person info. You are getting married to them next well!
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Angela · on August 22, 2018 at 9:53 AM
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I had a terrible experience on the copper IUD and my periods would last about 2.5 weeks. I had to take it out after a little less than a year. If you're currently on the birth control, I would say skip the placebos and you'll most likely be fine. Your body takes a few months to stabilize on new birth control, hopefully by the wedding week your body will have adjusted. You can try period panties if you're worried about spotting. They look just like real panties!
As for being intimate for the first time on your period... My fiance and I do it all the time. It's actually better in my opinion since there's extra lubrication. He doesn't care because he knows women bleed, it's what we do and it's what makes us amazing creatures who are able to create life inside of us!
I would have a talk with your FH and let him know you may be on your period and have him understand the sensitivity behind it all. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed. Throw a towel on the bed (weird I know, but sex can be messy even without a period) and have fun.
I just posted about speeding up your period, but if you're already on pills that adjust your hormones, there is really no other option. There is no miracle "stop my period" pill other than birth control, which you're already taking. Exercise, vitamin C, ginger all adjust hormones, which your birth control is doing already
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