I originally didn't want to have this along with bridal shower since a lot of people have been saying "I got this" and they come to me needing this and that and telling me to do stuff. I know it would just be another thing for me at the end to plan and I am already swamped with so many other things in life, not to mention the cost of the wedding (we are currently sitting at 33k). So things like bridal shower and brunch are extra for me that I don't care to have.
My FMIL reached out to my FH saying how we should split the cost of the rehearsal brunch..... If she wants to so desperately host it, shouldn't she be paying...? Also she started reaching out to me asking if I can get in contact with the wedding planner for the rehearsal brunch venue. So basically, I will be planning and working on this one, when the reason why I didn't even want one in the first place was because of work, time, stress, and finance. I have made it clear of that to her before, to which, she said, "that's fine, I will happy to host it". If you are hosting an event, doing venue research, finance, food, and greeting/hosting people are all part of the responsibilities! The wedding ceremony - my FH and I will be doing it all, and we're happy to. But it just doesn't make sense when people so confidently say "They got this" and come back to me with "can you do this, can you do that".
When people say, "I got this, I will do it all, I will host it", shouldn't it mean they will be in charge of the whole thing from A-Z? My opinion is if you are going to do it all, do it ALL. Don't half ass it because it will fall in my lap - which is the reason why I didn't want to have it in the first place.
I'd be so extremely happy to give help to anyone and everyone that needs it but not when they are saying, "you don't need to do a thing, don't worry about it, this is why im hosting it"
This is why I didn't want to have a rehearsal brunch in the first place. I couldn't care for it, if someone wants to have it, they can have it and I'll be there for it or I guess I don't even need to be. (This is how little I care for my rehearsal brunch, which, I guess, looks like it will fall on my lap).
Thanks for listening to my concern/rant....