Hello, My partner and I will be attending sister’s wedding in a few weeks. She dated/got engaged within a year and we have only met the fiance twice. We’ve lived together for 8 years now but aren’t married. I’m 26 years old and self-employed and my partner is currently unemployed. We just moved into our first house 2 weeks ago with lots of moving expenses. We both aren’t close to his sister at all. She is spoiled, never had a job, doesn’t understand the value of money and makes no effort to have a relationship with us. (She hasn’t texted her brother in several months; not even to ask about the move.) She also isn’t paying for the expensive wedding at all (not one cent). Her widowed mother is paying for everything.
My partner’s mother just texted him saying his sister wants us to get her a specific set of pots and pans (around 215$ value) for her wedding. I come from a small town, with middle-lower income families. Gifts were never expected and if there was any gifts, it was small and sentimental. We already have to travel a couple hours for the wedding and I have to buy a specific conservative dress (religious ceremony).
We are attending the wedding by obligation and this whole gift situation doesn’t seem right to me. I can’t believe she would feel entitled to ask for a specific gift. I was planning on just giving a card and that’s it (not sure what my partner had in mind). We both can’t stand her entitled attitude to be honest… I’d love to hear some thoughts or opinions?