To Post or Not to Post?

I found that I didn't want to share too much. Mostly just excited count downs. But everyone has an opinion they think should be taken into consideration. Lots of sharing is goong to invite lots of input. Some will be loving and supportive but others will be judgemental and hurtful. It's the nature of social media. I also didn't want to share much because I want my guests to have some level of "WOW" on my wedding day and not have already seen it all online. My Pinterest is even private.

I would not share wedding planning, or any wedding details on social media. Not the best move, not everyone needs to know everything.

I shared only one photo when I was first engaged, then 5 months before my wedding I shared 2 engagement photos. I was engaged for over 2 years. Since my wedding I've only shared 4 photos. Less is best.

I just shared the engagement photos. I did not share the wedding planning details. It didn't seem right to me to share wedding planning stuff on social media.

I haven't posted anything wedding related for the same reasons you mentioned. Social media is a great tool but planning a wedding is still one of those very intimate life events (even if you are having 200 guests), the other 400 to 1000 or more social media friends actually don't care so much about your wedding details. I have 2 friends on social media posting so many details and I honestly DON'T CARE and just wish they would stop. I think sharing a pic here and there is nice depending on what it is, and engagement photos are nice to look at, but other than that I vote, please keep it to yourself.

I haven't really shared anything. Just because I don't have time. Honestly I don't care what people have to say. My mother and future husband shared about the engagement. I shared the date by saying save the date are sent out. And posted my wedding website. Its all up to you what you want to do.

I don’t find it necessary to share specific details about the wedding on social media. When I was excited about booking the venue, I posted a selfie of FH and I there without an explanation. When I found my dress, I just posted my “I said yes” picture. Other than that, I really haven’t shared anything on social media.

I've been really quiet on social media, I was even before I got engaged too. Ultimately I've found that most of my friends - and some family - are not interested in the details. I get excited for them, but the people around me are more excited for the finished product. My friends and family want me to get married, they don't need to see pictures or posts about all the little details that go into a wedding. I am super excited to share our pictures once we're married because of all the DIY I've done.

Share it here but not on social media, it gets old quick for people. A week after I got engaged my FI and I shared a selfie and my ring was highlighted but the caption did not allude to engagement. Since then we shared two engagement photos. That’s all. We have a 19 month engagement and never posted the date etc on social media.

I use this to air out what I want to say. For the most part most people are nice- and they all have creative ideas but we are all in the same boat so no one pushes on their ideas because everyone knows that ultimately it’s your wedding you can do what you want .

As for facebook I took a leave from Facebook right before I got engaged (about September until Jan- very rarely looking at it) and since then I’ve posted my annocement that I got engaged, my thank you’s for my birthday, and some Super Bowl things. But I wouldn’t say anything about the wedding- just because it’s none of my Facebook friends business- and I don’t want hundreds of opinions. Or the “well this is what I did”’s

I try not to share too much on social media for the same reason. I don't want people thinking they are invited or friends being upset that they aren't in the bridal party. Some things I did share were a picture of my mom and a few bridesmaids when I said yes to the dress (I wasn't in the dress, we just took a group picture after), an anniversary post for my fiance that mentioned I can't wait to be married, and a picture of me and my bridesmaids before we went to get their dresses. When I shared these things I made sure that I didn't include any clues to when our wedding is and I didn't refer to my friends as bridesmaids (said stuff like "girls day" or "fun day with friends").

With my limited posts, and not giving away details in my posts, no one that isn't invited has asked me about the wedding or even realizes that I'm planning it. I actually talked to an old friend recently who likes all my posts and she thought my wedding was next year. So I think as long as you don't post every little thing you do, and don't hint on to a date or location, you won't run into any awkward issues of people thinking they are invited.

The only things we posted were the engagement and the bridal shower (tagged by friends who attended). I have some family members who have alluded to the up coming wedding, but from our side it has been radio silent. Mostly due to advice from wedding wire.

Since we were engaged, there's really only been two posts in the span of over 3 months. The engagement relationship update and a vague post about finding a venue and having a date. But we've done lot so of other planning and finalizing that never saw the blue light of social media. The VIPs know what they need to know and that's about it. It can get tiring for people on your friends list to see every detail of your wedding, particularly if they're not coming. And I intentionally kept the venue post vague and direct messaged anyone (like aunts and grandparents) who wanted the information.

I came here to be excited about my dress I think this is a good place for all of that. Feel free to show us your cake, your venue, whatever you'd like. It helps us with inspiration too!

I never posted we were engaged, and after we get married I will post a few pics of us. Best to keep these things quiet. Why open yourself for comments, critical comments or unwanted invitations?

I only post pictures of my kids and family things on social media . No gifts , no wedding , nothing involving my relationship .. 1. Because it's annoying when people post about their relationships it's actually usually bad lol . 2 . I don't want to invite more people to my wedding then o have to .. 3. I don't like rubbing my stuff in people's faces as nobody is better then anybody .. and some of my friends struggle with relationships .. I say post the wedding pictures after the fact

We refrained from posting anything about our wedding on social media. It's rude to talk about wedding details in front of people you're not inviting, so why would I post wedding details for friends who weren't on our guest list to see?

When you post about your wedding, you open yourself up to people asking if they can come, telling you they can't wait or will be there, or asking where their invite is, and it's awkward.

All we posted was changing our relationship status to "engaged" with a picture of us from the day we got engaged and then we changed our profile pictures and my cover photo when we got our engagement photos back. That was it.

I prefer to not share anything at all. I've SEEN the people that constantly post about their engagement/wedding (gets old fast, lemme tell ya) and it gets very awkward when it comes down to invitations and the date. Several people get upset, lots of fighting going on, people being invited only to be dis-invited, people hurt, and the bride getting mad about the disaster.

I find it best to just keep quiet and post about normal things like you did before you were engaged. I won't even mention my FH as my fiance (I just call him by his name) to avoid the flood of "i better be invited" comments.

However, I don't see it as a bad thing to post a few photos from your wedding day on there. Give a quick post about how you enjoyed your day and such and most people uninvited will just give a congratulations and leave it be.

I have noticed throughout the last few years that I have become more private and haven't shared much on social media. We shared our engagement in one post in August but I haven't posted anything related to the wedding. Since I'm not much of a frequent poster, it doesn't feel weird to me not to post. If I was, I don't think I would anyway for the reason of putting our wedding on acquaintances radar. I have had a few people who I like but who are not invited (not too close to them) ask me if they "made the cut" and it was so awkward for me. The only other things that probably will be posted on there is if people take pictures at my shower or bachelorette party in July and then wedding pictures. I most a bit more on Instagram and have a much smaller followerer list on there so I might post something more personal on there.

I have friends on Facebook that have been more of frequent posters (countdowns) and frequent mention of wedding things. I don't get offended by seeing them because I'm interested in weddings (hence being on WW).I like to creep wedding websites too LOL. But one girl posted way too much about her wedding planning and it seemed to be her form of communication with her guests when it got closer... such as: guests- how many plan to use the shuttle? and remember to send it your RSVPs! and still need RSVPs! and this is where we will be for rehearsal dinner.

I think it's usually a good idea to stay social media mute overall on social media to avoid awkward conversations. But that being said I think the important thing to remember here is that no one will find your wedding as important as you and your fiance. People you have met may be interested in coming if they are invited but it's pretty unlikely they are going to be really hurt if they aren't invited. If you travel this much and have met this many people I can assure you that many of these people will completely understand not being invited and may enjoy seeing the little things you've mentioned like setting a date etc on social media (within limits of course)

Yikes I didn't think I posted that much but compared to what's on this thread, I feel like I overshare! On New Years I said I looked forward to marrying my best friend and I posted a picture of a GORGEOUS ring box that our friend made for us. No dates or status on what I got or booked... But if there's one thing I do share often are really dumb but funny wedding memes. Pizza wedding cakes, Kristen Wig in Bridesmaids, being poor, etc. Whoops.