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Brooke
Just Said Yes November 2019

Worst Bridal Shower Ever...and it was mine :(

Brooke, on August 21, 2019 at 5:49 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 10

I had my bridal party on July 27th. It was...not great. My 2 MOH's had NO idea what they were doing (like, at all. For anything), so I had to have 2 other bridesmaids plan my bridal shower. One bridesmaid, "A", booked the Elks Club for the party, the other, "B" volunteered to send invites and make decorations. "B" sent out invites...that were home made and looked like they were made by children (I had several people ask me if my god kids made the cards- not a 28yo adult woman). She also told me 2 weeks before the party that she couldn't make it and thus, she would give up helping with the party. "A" is upset she finds out she has 5 weeks to plan my party, but says she'll do it. MOH's are no where to be found. Main MOH is "planning" my bachelorette party (which bridesmaid "A" also chips in to pay for my food and drinks for, as MOH's don't do it).

"A" booked the Elks Club...and then failed to tell me that the room we were used would be decked out for the 4th of July...so my "Kate Spade" themed party looked like an American themed party with Kate Spade colors thrown in- it was confusing and weird. I got comments from people that while the party was fun, they felt bad for me because the venue looked horrible.

I bought all my decorations (which we couldn't really use because we weren't allowed to move the American decorations already hung up...everywhere) and it just looked so tacky. I also bought my own plates, and cutlery. Basically, if I had not brought any of my own stuff, it would have been a full on 4th of July pot luck looking party. The photos I have look SO bad and I was almost embarrassed to look at them.

I did talk to "A" and she apologized for it being 'not the party you deserve'- but admitted she was mad that my MOH's didn't step in to do anything and that she had to plan it all herself at last minute. I feel like a spoiled brat, but my one party I get was terrible because of my bridesmaids.

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Latest activity by MrsD, on August 21, 2019 at 4:18 PM
  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I’m sorry it was such a poor experience for you. Your shower definitely should have been enjoyable for you and your guests. Unfortunately you can’t go back and change things, so just try to be appreciative of those who brought your gifts. And remember that none of these girls are planning your wedding, so that is sure to be spectacular! I would be upset too, but try not to let it ruin the rest of your wedding planning. I would however make sure your whole bridal party is on board with what you have in mind for your wedding (such as dresses, when/where to get ready, etc) so things don’t go awry on your big day.
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  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    I'm sorry you had a bad experience. Unfortunately your MOHs aren't required to throw you a wedding shower. It was extremely gracious of A to host. I can't tell from you post if she offered or you asked. However, the host decides location and theme. Maybe B could only afford hand made invitations? I get it, we all see these Pinterest worthy bridal shower pictures and expect the same. People came with gifts to support you. Look on the bright side. Be thankful.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I agree with this. While it’s ok to be disappointed that it wasn’t exactly how you wanted it, you got a shower and people showed up and had a good time. This isn’t the worst bridal shower ever.
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  • Sandy Yoga
    Dedicated January 2007
    Sandy Yoga ·
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    And people making snarky comments about the invitations and decorations being tacky are very rude.
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  • J
    Expert May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    I can understand being underwhelmed and disappointed, but also you did get a shower and people came to celebrate you. It's up to the bridal party to decide what events they will host and how they will do that... I am not sure why you were buying decorations or involved in setting any of this up. It stinks that there were flaky people, but maybe this was all too much for A to pull off.

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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Decor doesn’t ruin a party. I’m sorry you were disappointed, but this definitely sounds ungrateful. You were thrown a party, people came to celebrate you — focus on the positives. Your comments, and your guests comments regarding invites is frankly inappropriate. There’s nothing wrong with homemade invites. For shower invites I’ve received evites, cards that are prefilled with blanks that are filled in with handwritten details— all are perfectly fine, as long as they communicate the necessary details. No need for a fancy expensive printed thing.

    Reset your focus. Stop dwelling on the negatives, which seem minor in the grand scheme of things. Sounds like you were hoping for something very specific, but this was not your party to plan. The best approach is to focus on the good. Who took the time out of their lives to come celebrate you, who you got to see and spend time with, the generous gifts people gave you — there was so much good , dwelling on the disappointments is a waste of energy.
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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Also.....there’s really absolutely nothing wrong with a “4th of July potluck looking party” .... Sure, it wasn’t what you wanted, but that sounds like a
    perfectly lovely party, and, the shower is not the bride’s to plan.
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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    Agree, an empty room of no shows, no matter how gorgeous, is a bad party.
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    Judith ·
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    Yes, guests of honor should not have visions other people have to live up to.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I'm sorry, it doesn't sound like a great experience. To avoid further disappointment, I'd probably tell your MOH to cancel your bach or let you in on planning a lot of it.

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